Her name isn’t Becky, but for the purposes of this article, we’ll call her that.
“Well of course, Becky. What can I do for you?” I replied.
Her bottom lip began to tremble slightly, and then she looked at the floor for a few
seconds. When she lifted her gaze, her eyes had tears in them. I braced myself for what
was about to come.
“I’m just so tired of the constant struggle. I can’t seem to lose the weight, and I don’t
want to be fat anymore. I’m tired all of the time and I’m just so frustrated. I don’t want
to be this age (52) and overweight any further.”
By now the tears were streaming freely.
I’ve been in the fitness industry for a little over 33 years now. In that time I’ve come to
understand a few things about achieving success in reaching a goal or certain level of
health, fitness or performance capability. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a heck of a lot of
stuff I don’t know, but I’m secure enough to emphasize the things I do know about.
My clients are blessed to hear me reiterate and repeat some of the same phrases quite
often. Things like:
“Eat it like God made it!”
“The greatest exercise program in the world is the one you’ll do, and the greatest
nutrition plan is the one you’ll follow.”
“If it’s simple to do it’s also simple not to do. That’s why you need a plan.”
But the one phrase I think I use more than any other, and the thing I talked with Becky
about that day, is the power of clarity and proper mindset in goal attainment.
The Bible in Proverbs 23:7 states, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”
Earl Nightingale noted some 60 years ago that, “We become what we think about most
of the time.”
It’s like a self-fulfilling prophesy the way the power of the subconscious mind
orchestrates the outcomes and events of our lives.
Bottom line: We get what we think about most.
You see the mind thinks in pictures. What it “see’s”, it pictures as necessary, gravitates
toward it and tries to obtain it to appease the soul and/or intellect. The pictures we
create in our subconscious minds are related to the words we use and the thoughts we
I’ll prove it to you: Chocolate Chip Cookie.
What did you just picture in your mind, even though there are no photos shown here?
The power of the mind is strong.
And they can be influenced by those around us, the newspaper, radio and television.
This is why it’s important to protect the mind from negativity or inadvertent bad
I’ll give you another example: Imagine a softball coach giving instruction to one of her
players as she’s about to approach the plate and saying assertively, “Don’t strike out!”
Inevitably the batter hears the phrase ring in her ears, and strikes out. Why? Because
what the mind hears is “strike out” and so that’s what the powerful subconscious mind is
It ain’t rocket surgery, folks.
A large portion of my training day is dedicated to helping people who have Parkinson’s
through the use of flexibility work, strength training and boxing training. I reiterate to
them repeatedly, “We fight FOR better health, fitness, balance, strength, stability and
I want them to plant the seeds of success deep into their soul. I want them to think
about what it is they want (better strength, control, stamina, endurance, balance) rather
than what they don’t. To fight FOR something, not against it. Does that make sense?
And so it was with Becky. I explained the tenets to her, encouraged her to change her
self-talk, her mindset and her desires to that which she wanted rather than what she
It’s subtle, but there is a big action and results based difference between saying, “I don’t
want to be fat!” verses saying, “I want to be lean, strong and fit.”
See…we get what we think about most.
And I’m proud to report that in the 6 weeks since that initial conversation I had with
Becky, she’s happily down two dress sizes and well on her way to achieving the success
she wants and deserves.
We get what we think about most, so focus on what it is you want, and before you know
it you’ll be there.
Steve Payne is the owner and head trainer of Firestorm Fitcamps in San Antonio, Texas. An avid outdoorsman, fitness professional, Man of God and all around good dude, Steve
combines 30 years in the fitness industry with a common sense approach that generates
results for his clients. Check out their website at: http://www.firestormfitcamps.com/